Purpose-Driven Memory

Memory has always been a complex issue for me. As mentioned, I often forget significant dates and details—birthdays, appointments, and even my keys. It seems like these essential items have a mind of their own and vanish from my thoughts.

Yet, paradoxically, I can recall the most bizarre facts at a moment’s notice, leaving people puzzled about my sources. I also find that I can remember random sequences of numbers if there’s a reason behind it—like that frustratingly slow Wi-Fi connection.

I recall my grandmother being amazed at my ability to memorize her Wi-Fi password back in sixth grade. She thought I had it “committed to memory.” What she didn’t know was that I had forgotten the password to my iPod Touch and had to reset it, prompting the need for her Wi-Fi credentials.

This situation highlights a common struggle for those of us with ADHD: not every important detail seems to carry significance. When there aren't clear connections made between the information and its relevance, it becomes challenging to retain it.

The medical term for this is "working memory." According to Verywell Health,

Working memory influences how individuals process, store information, and follow directions.

In essence, it relates to organization. This is typically the opposite of how my mind felt before receiving my ADHD diagnosis and treatment. It can also impact reading and mathematics; a person with working memory difficulties might remember every detail but struggle to synthesize them.

This tendency explains why I can easily recall seemingly unconnected facts while grappling with more critical information. The data exists; it’s simply not in a useful, organized manner.

Imagine tossing papers into a room every day and closing the door. When you need to find something, if it’s near the entrance, you’re lucky; if not, good luck!

I’ve started to refer to this as “Purpose-Driven Memory” instead of “Working Memory.” The term “working” implies a constant readiness, which isn’t the reality for many of us with ADHD.

Our brains are perpetually active, constantly processing our surroundings, making it difficult to discern what’s worth remembering amid a barrage of information. To quickly retrieve important details, we must assign them purpose. Establishing connections enhances the likelihood of recall.

I've begun employing strategies like calendars, list-making, and visualization techniques to improve my memory.

Utilizing Calendars

Establishing a routine of using a calendar has proven to be one of my toughest organizational challenges. It involves not just knowing what I have planned for the day but also for the upcoming week.

Creating Lists

Lists serve as an extension of my mind. Sometimes, jotting down a thought is easier than articulating it verbally. I’ve embraced this method and am leveraging my collection of small notebooks to my advantage.

The Power of Visualization

Visualization is crucial for effective memorization. By picturing the significance of what I need to remember, I engage multiple senses, reinforcing the memory in my brain.

Whether it’s visualizing a key turning in a lock or imagining the joy on a loved one’s face when they receive a birthday card, these mental images help forge stronger connections between the object and my memory.

While I won’t claim to have resolved my memory issues, I genuinely believe I’m making progress. I feel more organized, knowing I’m achieving my goals and completing tasks. Although I still forget things, I recognize this is a long journey, and I’m prepared for wherever it leads.

This is the second installment in my series on personal experiences with ADHD. To read part one, click below.

Oops!! I Completely Forgot About the Adoption Option, Thanks for Reminding Me - YouTube: In this video, the creator reflects on unexpected moments of forgetfulness and the importance of seeking reminders.

Oops we have a change of plan (again) - YouTube: This video captures the spontaneity of life and how plans can shift unexpectedly, resonating with the experiences of many who navigate similar challenges.