Section 1.1: The Importance of Clarity in Dating

When I converse with men, a recurring theme emerges: many lack a clear understanding of what they want. Imagine searching for a job without a clear career path—wandering from one application to another with no real direction, yet hoping for a favorable outcome.

This confusion mirrors the dating lives of many men. They venture into the dating world without intention or a defined set of values, wondering why they face disappointment.

When I ask why they desire a particular type of partner, the responses are often vague. It’s essential to confront yourself with honesty about your desires and motivations.

For instance, I appreciate women with olive or brown skin without needing to tan. I also prioritize specific traits: S.A.C.K. (Selfless, Accountable, Caring, and Kind). These qualities signal potential for a lasting partnership, and I’m clear that having children is a dealbreaker for me, as I wish to continue my legacy. If I don’t see these traits, I move on.

Know what you want, and be truthful about why you want it.

Subsection 1.1.1: Building Confidence through Practice

Confidence in dating often comes down to practice. Many men believe they lack confidence, but in reality, they simply need more opportunities to engage with women.

I advise men to take advantage of every chance to interact with women, not just those they find attractive. The real issue lies in unfamiliarity with feminine energy. This lack of exposure can cause freezing in the presence of an attractive woman.

Creating an idealized narrative around her due to her looks can lead to foolish behavior. When you’re on a first date, any lack of practice is evident.

Afterward, this can result in overcompensation, making one appear insincere.

Section 1.2: The Importance of Emotional Reserve

No elaborate introduction needed here: when uncertainty arises, take a step back.

This advice is closely related to the previous point. I frequently observe men who invest too much too quickly in a new romantic interest, only to be heartbroken when things don’t work out.

I’m not suggesting you juggle multiple relationships or become uncommitted. Rather, I advise maintaining emotional reserve.

Many men become overly fixated on their interactions with women, whether casually or seriously. When in doubt, step back. Limit the mental space you allocate to a new or ongoing relationship.

A woman shouldn’t occupy your first or second priority in life. This isn’t a slight against women; it’s simply that they should not be your sole focus.

What drives you? What brings you satisfaction?

A woman is not an adequate answer to either of those questions. Women appreciate men who have clear paths and ambitions. A man who appears consumed by a woman’s presence may come across as lacking direction.

When in doubt, take a step back.