# The Parallels Between Writing and Romantic Relationships
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Chapter 1: The Journey of Writing and Love
Both writing and romantic relationships share a remarkable journey filled with ups and downs. Having spent over three years in a romantic partnership and just over five months writing on Medium, I’ve observed countless parallels between the two experiences.
Recently, I came across an article by Tim J. Schröder, where he discussed why pursuing one's passion might not be the best advice for many writers. He included a thought-provoking quote: "Writing isn't romantic, and yet it's love." This resonated with me, prompting a comment that inspired this article. Today, I aim to delve into what makes writing akin to being in a romantic relationship.
Puppy Love: The Excitement of New Beginnings
When embarking on a new romantic relationship, it's common to experience what's often referred to as 'puppy love'—a phase characterized by infatuation, excitement, and an overwhelming attraction. Similarly, when I first began writing, it felt exhilarating. Starting with a single article quickly spiraled into a daily writing habit, filling my thoughts and dreams with anticipation for what was to come.
Recognizing Flaws: The Reality Sets In
As the initial euphoria fades, you may start noticing imperfections in your partner: perhaps they’re messy, overly attached to their phone, or have tastes you don’t share. But these minor flaws often pale in comparison to the connection you feel.
In writing, the same realization occurs. At first, writing feels liberating and satisfying. However, as time progresses, doubts creep in: Why do my most heartfelt pieces receive little attention while my less meaningful work garners praise? Why does engagement feel like a second job? Such questions can lead to frustration, mirroring the way we perceive our partner’s shortcomings over time.
Facing Doubts: The Challenges of Commitment
As relationships deepen, so do the doubts and challenges. Questions arise: Do I really love my partner, or am I just comfortable? Is there something better out there? These uncertainties are natural, whether in love or writing.
In the realm of writing, similar thoughts emerge: Can I truly sustain a living through writing? Should I pivot to something more lucrative? Do I still love this craft, or have I merely grown accustomed to it?
The Decision: Nurture or Let Go
When doubts become frequent, a crucial decision must be made: either nurture the relationship or end it. Remaining indecisive can lead to deterioration.
Ending a romantic relationship means severing all ties—no more shared moments or struggles. In writing, it translates to abandoning the platform, halting the sharing of thoughts, and letting go of dreams.
However, choosing to nurture the relationship means recognizing flaws while committing to growth. You acknowledge the challenges but choose to persevere, affirming your love for both writing and your partner, despite imperfections.
Conclusion: Embracing the Reality of Love
In both writing and romantic relationships, the initial excitement may eventually transition into something more profound and real. It’s about making a conscious decision to invest time and effort, accepting imperfections while working towards a shared journey.
What are your thoughts on these parallels? Have I overlooked any key similarities? I welcome your comments!
I would like to express my gratitude to Tim J. Schröder for his inspiring article, which sparked this reflection.
Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a fantastic day!
Chapter 2: Resources for Writers
In this insightful video, "HOW TO WRITE ROMANCE: Crafting Unique & Compelling Relationships," viewers are guided through the nuances of creating authentic romantic narratives.
Another valuable resource is "How to Write Realistic Relationships," which offers practical tips for depicting genuine connections in writing.